Why is setting boundaries so challenging for your daughter?

Is your daughter a caring, attentive friend who helps out her friends as much as she can? However, when your daughter is struggling and needs the same caring, thoughtful friend, she seems to be alone. 

A lot of the girls I work with are so sweet and want to help their friends, but many heartaches happen because they don't have the boundaries they need to keep themselves safe in their relationships.

In The Brave Girl Tribe, we learned about boundaries, and I used Nedra Glover Tawwab's book Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide To Reclaiming Yourself, as a resource. If your daughter is struggling to set boundaries, this book may be a great resource. 

Why is setting boundaries so challenging for your daughter?

Here are the nine reasons that might make setting boundaries challenging for your daughter. Please share this list with your daughter and see which ones are tough for her. You can even share what is challenging for you. 

1. You fear being seen as mean.
2. You fear being seen as rude.
3. You are a people pleaser.
4. You are anxious about future interactions after a boundary has been set.
5. You feel powerless and not sure that a boundary will help.
6. You get your value from helping others.
7. You have no clue where to start in setting a boundary.
8. You project onto others your feelings about saying no.
9. You believe that you can't have boundaries in certain types of relationships.

If your daughter experiences some drama in her relationships, it may be time for her to do a Friendship Health Check-In. Download the workbook  This could help you begin a conversation with your daughter about her current relationships. These exercises might help give her some perspective on how healthy her relationships are and which connections may be toxic.

                                                 

                         

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