Many parents ask me for advice on supporting their daughters through the emotional turmoil of friendship troubles.
One common question arises: "Should I contact the girl's parents who are being mean to my daughter?"
I understand how confusing and upsetting it is when our daughter's experience hurt, and as a parent, you are actively seeking ways to support her. It's natural to wonder if reaching out to the parents of the girl causing distress would be beneficial.
With three decades of experience working with children and parents, I've found that reaching out to the other parent often doesn't yield the desired results you, as a parent, are hoping for.
Talking to the parents of the child who is causing issues can be complex and delicate.
Plus, there are different factors to consider before contacting the other parent.
The foremost consideration is whether your daughter desires your assistance and believes contacting the other parents would be constructive.
It's crucial to avoid a...
We all have those moments when our minds seem stuck in a never-ending loop, like a hamster running on a wheel.
Recently, I have found myself on a hamster wheel replaying a problem repeatedly, and I have noticed I am not alone, as many of my coaching clients are also stuck on their own hamster wheels.
That is why I wanted to share with you information about rumination.
Rumination is a term that describes a common pattern of thinking that many of us experience at times. When we are ruminating, we repeatedly focus on a problem, a loss, or a setback without moving forward into taking action.
For parents and teen girls, rumination often involves obsessing about issues, replaying them in your mind, and getting lost in those thoughts. This constant replaying can deepen feelings of anxiety, sadness, or even self-blame. It's like being stuck in a loop where you can't let go of these negative thoughts, which continue to affect your mood and well-being.
It's essential to recognize that,...
Embracing The Magic of Halloween and Growing Up
As we approach the enchanting season of Halloween, I want to take a moment to address a topic that often goes unnoticed but can weigh heavily on our teens and tweens - the bittersweet experience of growing up.
For many of our young girls, Halloween can serve as a poignant reminder of the passage of time and the inevitable shift toward adulthood.
In this blog, we'll explore how to support your teens and tweens as they navigate these complex emotions, acknowledging their sense of loss and offering words of comfort.
Halloween: A Time of Transition
Halloween, with its ghosts, goblins, and ghouls, symbolizes the transition from childhood to adulthood in its own way.
As the years pass, our children often find themselves caught between the excitement of celebrating this magical season and the sense of loss as they grow older.
Here's how you can help your teens and tweens during this emotional journey:
Acknowledging Their Feelings:
As parents, we embark on a beautiful journey with our children, witnessing their growth and development at every step.
Along this path, we encounter moments of joy, laughter, and love, but we also face challenges and complexities that can be overwhelming.
As our children grow and navigate new emotions, they may struggle to find the right words to express what's happening inside. That's where the "Feeling Wheel" becomes an invaluable tool – a compass guiding the ups and downs of emotions in our homes or even during car rides.
We want to help our kids to develop their emotional literacy and learn how to describe emotions beyond "Happy," "Sad," "Mad," and "Scared." When we ask our children how they feel, their answers are often limited.
"Happy," "Sad," "Mad," and "Scared" are fundamental emotions, but the richness of our emotional landscape extends far beyond these four labels. The Feeling Wheel unlocks a treasure trove of emotions, giving our children a vocabulary to...
Hi Brave Parents,
As your daughter navigates the challenges of growing up, it's natural for her to encounter moments of disappointment and unfairness. As a parent, you have the power to provide support and help her overcome these hurdles.
Here are six tips to make the journey easier:
1. Listen and Validate: When your daughter is experiencing disappointment or feelings of unfairness, the first step is to listen to her and validate her feelings. Let her know that you hear her and that her emotions are important.
2. Provide Perspective: Help your daughter put things in perspective by reminding her of all the things she has accomplished and overcome in the past. Encourage her to view setbacks as opportunities to learn and grow.
3. Encourage Positive Self-Talk: Self-talk is a powerful tool for managing emotions. Encourage your daughter to practice positive self-talk by using affirmations such as "I am capable" or "I will overcome this challenge."
4. Help Her Find a Healthy Outlet:...