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Building Healthy Friendships: Empowering Our Daughters to Maintain Balance

In our ongoing discussions about fostering healthy friendships for our daughters, let's delve into one of my favorite analogies that I use with girls.

Picture a scale that exists in relationships with your daughter on one side of the scale, and as she interacts with other people, the scale can go up or down or stay balanced based on the energies that are exchanged.

When these scales are in equilibrium, it reflects a mutual and respectful connection. Each girl contributes to the scale, creating a harmonious exchange that builds genuine friendships. However, there are times when the scales become imbalanced, often stemming from one party trying too hard to please.Imagine your daughter enthusiastically adding positive energy to the scale, wanting to contribute to the friendship. However, if the other side takes advantage or perceives this eagerness as a weakness, the scales tip drastically. The pleaser scale drops significantly compared to the more socially popular girl, leaving an uneven and potentially unhealthy dynamic.

 As parents, it's essential to guide our daughters toward relationships where the scales remain balanced.

Here are some tips to help your daughter keep her friendship scales balanced:

Encourage Self-Expression:
Create an open and non-judgmental environment where your daughter feels comfortable expressing her true self. Encourage her to share her thoughts, feelings, and opinions. This helps build confidence and assertiveness in relationships.

Promote Independence:
Support your daughter in pursuing her individual interests and goals. This fosters a sense of independence and self-reliance, allowing her to develop a strong sense of identity outside of her friendships.

Teach Healthy Boundaries:
Help your daughter understand the importance of setting and respecting boundaries in relationships. Discuss the concept of personal space, emotional boundaries, and the significance of consent. This empowers her to maintain control over her own life and decisions. Download now my Boundary Workbook.

Model Healthy Relationships:
Serve as a positive role model by demonstrating balanced relationships in your own life. Show respect and equality in your partnerships, friendships, and family relationships. Teens often learn by observing, so be mindful of the behaviors you exhibit.

Encourage Inclusivity:
Teach your daughter the value of inclusivity and the importance of forming diverse friendships. Emphasize the significance of understanding and respecting different perspectives, backgrounds, and interests.

Foster Communication Skills:
Help your daughter develop effective communication skills. Encourage active listening and expressing herself assertively but respectfully. This not only strengthens her ability to navigate relationships but also contributes to a more harmonious social environment.

Discuss Red Flags:
Have open conversations about potential red flags in relationships, such as manipulation, control, or unhealthy competition. Make sure she knows how to identify and address these issues, emphasizing the importance of walking away from toxic friendships. 

Supportive Environment:
Create a supportive home environment where your daughter feels safe to discuss her friendships. Offer guidance without judgment and provide a listening ear when needed.
This will strengthen your connection and help her navigate challenges more effectively.

Encourage Mutual Support:
Teach the importance of mutual support and encouragement in friendships. True friends uplift and celebrate each other's successes rather than fostering competition or jealousy.

Monitor Social Media Use:
Be aware of your daughter's online interactions. Discuss the potential impact of social media on self-esteem and friendships. Encourage responsible use and help her navigate any challenges that may arise in the digital realm.

In our collective effort to nurture resilient and confident young individuals, let's empower our daughters to recognize when the scales may be tilting and guide them toward friendships that thrive on equality, respect, and authenticity.

 If your daughter is dealing with friendship challenges, consider joining The Brave Girl Tribe. Our online community supports girls in 5th to 8th grade. We meet on most Sundays at 7 pm EST/6 pm CST/4 pm PST.

This safe and supportive environment can help her navigate these challenges with confidence. By connecting with others facing similar issues, she'll realize she's not alone.

To have your daughter join us as a guest, email me at [email protected] for the Zoom link. For a complimentary chat about how we can support you and your daughter, check my calendar.

May your daughters embrace friendships that nurture their spirits, where balance and fulfillment intertwine, creating connections that empower and uplift.


Laura Hayes
Founder of The Brave Girl Project
Life Coach for Tweens & Teens
[email protected]



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