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9 Thought Habits & Challenge Questions To Help With Automatic Negative Thoughts.

 I was incredibly fortunate to attend a Sting concert and let me tell you, it was absolutely amazing!

Listening to him perform "Message In A Bottle" brought back a flood of memories from my teenage years. Even after all this time, the lyrics still tug at my heartstrings.

The lyrics resonate with me, reminding me of all the girls heading back to school, feeling like they're castaways on lonely islands, but here's the truth: they're not alone in feeling alone. A whole sea of girls are out there, all searching for their place to belong.

Over the past few weeks, I've received numerous messages from parents reaching out for guidance on supporting their daughters during these challenging transitions in school and friendships.

 I created an Instagram Reel with tips on this very topic:

1. Create a Safe Home Space: Ensure your home is safe and welcoming, where your daughter feels comfortable sharing her experiences.

2. Manage Your Emotional Reaction: Managing your emotions when she confides in you is crucial. Stay calm and empathetic.

3. Role-play Together: Practice role-playing with your daughter to help her feel prepared to express her feelings and concerns to her friends.

4. The Art of Difficult Conversations: Teach her the art of having difficult conversations. Begin with a warm and connecting approach, followed by an "I Message" to express her feelings or experiences, and conclude by asking for what she needs to move forward.

9 Thought Habits & Questions To Pull Your Daughter Out Of Her Automatic Negative Thoughts.

Discover the power to overcome negative thinking alongside your daughter. We've identified the 9 main thought habits in the previous blog:

1. Catastrophizing

2. Magnifying the Negative

3. Mind Reading

4. Fortune Telling

5. All or Nothing Thinking

6. Negative Comparison

7. Spotlighting

8. Labeling

9. Social Perfectionism

Now, let's empower your daughter with questions that can reshape her thoughts.

Download the 9 Thought Habits and Challenge Questions guide to embark on a journey of exploration and growth. Together, you and your daughter can uncover new perspectives that will nurture her positive development.

Unleash the math superstar within your 5th to 8th grader. Join us on September 10th at 7:00 pm for this free exclusive workshop with Private Prep's founder Steve Feldman. Let's make this school year the best one yet! Click to register for this free workshop. ✨🚀

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The Brave Girl Tribe is an online resource for your 5th to 8th-grade daughter. There are lots of lessons, a community page, and weekly coaching call. Click here to learn more.

I hope you have a wonderful week, and if I can help you in any way, please feel free to reach out. You can schedule a complimentary call with me by visiting My Calendar. You can also email me, and we can schedule a day that works best for you!


Laura Hayes

Founder of The Brave Girl Project
Life Coach to Tween & Teen Girls
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